Fantasies are nothing but an imaginary play of mind where we explore unchartered territories and delve into doing things that are forbidden or wishful thinking in our mind. From thinking of the next door neighbor in a state of undress to winning a lottery, fantasizing is an important part of our psyche.
Fantasy is a basic part of human nature. Even if we manage to restrict our imagination during the day, all those unconscious passions emerge while we’re sleeping.

Understanding fantasies

There’s a huge variety of individual taste in sexual fantasy, just as we fantasize about every other thing in life. But many people feel rather ashamed of their own fantasies and fetishes, fearing they’re somehow bizarre if they’re turned on by things that are offensive or undesirable to others.
Sexual fantasies may convey a feature of our subconscious mind. For example, fantasies about being submissive or passive may be connected to a desire to experience high sexual stimulation and giving precedence to the other person’s satisfaction
But fantasies are simply thing that we might never do in real life, such as having sex in public or with a particular person. In fact, the fact that we cannot really do it in real makes us fantasize even more ‘colorfully’

Fantasizing about other people

Some people are anxious fantasizing about someone other than their partner because they feel it is an act of disloyalty, revealing either a craving to be unfaithful or that they are no longer turned on by their partner. In fact that is not the case.
There is proof that couples who fantasize the most always have happy, fulfilling relationships. It is the mind that is wandering, which may wander anway though the body has no aim of visiting

The benefits of fantasising

Sex generally begins in the brain. So a fertile imagination can mean you’re prepared for sex before anything physical actually transpires. Therefore, desire is maximized and arousal is heightened
Some people believe that an active fantasy life can add newness to a long-standing sexual relationship. This can be mainly helpful if your partner is not as sexually daring as you are.
But on the other hand, if you find it awkward to experiment in bed, fantasy offers an chance to give your thoughts free rein and to play out roles. Couples who do role play are actually acting out their fantasy hidden in the recesses of their mind.
In psychosexual therapy, fantasy is often used to obstruct negative thoughts. If you find during sexual encounters your mind moves to unhelpful images or thoughts, fantasy can aid you to concentrate on your sexual pleasure.
Learning to fantasize
If you are not able to fantasize easily, you can learn. Erotica can help; try exploring bookshops and good online erotica for erotic books and art. There’s also a wealth of magazines available to suit any taste or feed any desirous thought. And your local video store will stash a range of films, that breed various genres of erotic themes, from romantic to thriller to that of the hardcore variety.

Find out what turns you on. Then with the help of relaxation techniques, lie back and let your mind work on your favorite fantasy

Most common male fantasies

The most common male fantasies include:
• having sex with a present partner or whom he knows very closely
• giving and receiving oral sex
• having sex with more than one person
• being dominant
• being passive and submissive
• reliving a preceding experience
• watching others make love
• trying new sexual positions
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Most common female fantasies

The most common female fantasies include:
• having sex with an existing partner or someone she knows closely
• giving and receiving oral sex
• having sex with a new partner
• romantic or exotic locations
• doing something illicit or forbidden
• being submissive
• reliving a previous experience
• being found irresistible
• trying new sexual positions

Warning about sharing fantasies

Although some couples find that sharing and acting out their fantasies has increased trust and understanding, others have not. So be careful about sharing your fantasies, because they are personal and it is not always possible that your partner may appreciate it. Fantasies are healthy but there are social risks if you disclose them to some people who may take it negatively

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by admin on 21. Mar, 2010 in Sexual Health